by davidbonnie | Aug 10, 2018 | Home, Ladyboy News |
Over a number of years I feel that I have accrued a degree of wisdom in understanding the dynamics of ladyboys and their attraction. I can’t deny that a lot of that wisdom was gained after making mistakes in my dealings with ladyboys and collisions with Thai culture. All expats with any sensitivity go through various stages of acceptance, tolerance, love or dismissal of their adopted cultural experience. In other words, my attitudes and ideas are a constantly moving feast, changing or becoming fixtures as new experiences of sometimes similar phenomenon happen. Rest is rust. My aim has always been to impart knowledge and promote understanding of the thoroughly intriguing and endearing individuals who refer to themselves as ladyboys. *Ladyboy Personal Introduction service I have observed certain ladyboys whom I know to be beautiful, generous, graceful and loving individuals living alone despite their desire to find a serious and lasting relationship with a western man. Sometimes this is due to a Thai trait such as not recognising their own culpability in a cross cultural miscommunication in perhaps the early stages of a relationship but often it is due to the seed of fantastic expectations sown in their brains by foreign men who do not understand the significance of what they say or do, not realising that merely thinking aloud can be interpreted as wholly conceived plans in the ear of a hopeful ladyboy. I feel able to help ladyboys and western men to find each other, see each other realistically, accept each other, faults and all and bond in a loving and respectful relationship. Annie and I found each...
by davidbonnie | Jul 28, 2015 | Home, Ladyboy News |
The phrase “beyond the pale”, according to the Urban Dictionary, dates back to the 14th century, when the part of Ireland that was under English rule was delineated by a boundary made of such stakes or fences, and known as the English Pale. To travel outside of that boundary, beyond the pale, was to leave behind all the rules and institutions of English society, which the English modestly considered synonymous with civilization itself. It’s commonly held meaning is behaviour or a lifestyle that is unacceptable; outside agreed standards of decency. It’s a term often used about those who choose to live in the Orient in certain circles. The price we pay for a life of our own choosing may be criticism and one may often find oneself defending the choice to live in Thailand by citing the food, accommodation, cheap hotels and friendly people and if one is bold enough, the beautiful women as our reason, but is it true; are we truly living a dream worth defending? Sitting in the Dusit Thani hotel, Hua Hin, Thailand seems like the perfect place to reflect on some observations that Annie and I made about life in Thailand while on our travels in Great Britain last month. Ironic isn’t it? Perhaps one needs to be away from one’s home culture in order to observe it dispassionately and one needs another culture to compare alongside it. I imagine there are still people who would consider my relationship with a Thai ladyboy or simply the fact that I live in Thailand to be ‘beyond the pale’. I had very little idea how people...
by davidbonnie | Jul 9, 2015 | Home, Ladyboy Articles |
About Us-A Trans-gender, Trans-cultural Relationship Facebook can be a curse or a wonderful aid to communication. Here in Bangkok it’s a terrific ladyboy dating tool and in the summer of 2011 Annie and I met for the first time. I had been living in Bangkok for a little more than a year when I met Annie and in that time I had spent time with lots of ladyboys, found out the hard way never to date prostitutes and quite literally, written a book about my experiences, called Bangkok Baby.Buy it here. This story is mine and Annie’s. We are very different but just as you and your girlfriend are different, you and I, we are the same in many ways. I came to Bangkok and was done with all love, that unreliable motive for living. I buried it, or more accurately slaughtered it and dumped the body, car and murder weapon, in a pool. Then I flew away. After screwing anyone I met, paying many of them for a few months to keep my distance I noticed bubbles rising from the dead-pool. Loneliness, or something like it popped on the surface. Loneliness is not an attractive state and so it rarely gets a mention in thrillers about private detectives traversing dark cities as it repels more than attracts the subject of its craving, like leprosy or a runny nose. But, a little lost, I listened to it’s baby voice, found a girl or something like it and guiltily ripped out most of the pages of the book called, Never Love A Whore. It’s recommended reading but I recommend that...
by davidbonnie | Mar 16, 2015 | Home, Ladyboy Articles |
If you have been to Thailand or even if you haven’t you have probably heard a lot about Thai Ladyboys; some good and some bad but probably all interesting. Some of the negative reports you may have read are no doubt true. Some are not or are only reporting the ‘truth’ from a singular point of view. In general the red light areas of Bangkok are not places where you are likely to meet a representative sample of Thai people. Cities like Pattaya, even less so. This is also the case as regards the Ladyboys you may see or even meet in those types of places. Despite superficial appearances Thailand is a very conservative country both in manners and appearances. The news media tends to report on cases of violence and theft far more than acts of kindness. Ladyboys suffer a bad reputation earned for them by a certain demographic but often the focus on bad deeds are rooted in homophobia and prejudice even in an ostensibly tolerant society like Thailand. To make a balanced judgment or even see the world as it is rather than we are often told it is we need to seek out the alternative experience. If yours has largely been in the permanent midnight of the entertainment venues in Thailand or on Kho San road and in Silom you may not have seen Thailand in all it’s glory. You may have noticed Ladyboys around you in shops, banks and restaurants but that is coincidental. While seeking an alternative view of Bangkok and its Ladyboys may not sound like a fun night out, think again!...
by davidbonnie | Oct 28, 2014 | Home, Ladyboy Articles |
Social Media I am in favour of using Facebook and other social media to hook up with Ladyboys. If you start exchanging messages with a Ladyboy who responds with decent English and has something interesting to say; nowithstanding the danger signs below, you have found a gem. I met lots of Ladyboys online, specifically Facebook, and had a lot of fun but more importantly, I met Annie on Facebook. You may not exchange many ideas online but you can explore her life a little and make the initial contact which is important. Just searching for Ladyboys on Facebook will turn up hundreds if not thousands of profiles. Once you find one you like, look through her ‘Friends’ list. This may feel a little like stalking? I am not going to mention sites like ‘Thai Friendly’ because sifting out the whores will take you more time than it is worth. There are some genuine ladyboys using the site but most have met way too many farang already. Sloppy seconds anybody? Ladyboys who use Facebook, or other social sites like Badoo or SocialCam (immensely popular amongst ladyboys) portray themselves in various guises, often looking like a million dollars with their best clothes and makeup to the fore. Young ladyboys want to be perceived as more sexy, stylish and feminine than genetic girls. A 20 minute browse could find you these pretty things. They don’t all succeed in their quest to be beautiful and some ladyboys create profiles that can only be described as ‘epic fails’. Horrifyingly yet hilarious. When browsing profiles look for those that have a job; a professional...
by davidbonnie | Oct 7, 2014 | Home, Ladyboy News, Ladyboy Stories |
Bangkok Baby-Ladyboys–Special Edition Available NOW at Amazon. TEN new chapters and 50 original colour photographs !!NEW!! Available in PRINTED format delivered to your door or as an EBOOK! This is almost a completely new book. Bangkok Baby is still intact telling the story of my nine months amongst the ladyboys of Bangkok and the new book tells the story of my life after meeting Annie and appearing on television. I hope you like it! Buy from Amazon or if you want the ebook at a cheaper price than quoted there, direct by email TO davidbonnies@gmail.com. Bangkok Baby The Inside Story of Ladyboys ...
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