Ladyboys in Thai Culture | The Heart of Thailand

Ladyboys in Thai Culture | The Heart of Thailand

The word jai in Thai means “heart,” and it is such an important concept to the Thais that the word can be compounded with more than 100 other words. A few examples: Here are some of the jai lakkam (heart words) examples: ใจดี jai-dii (heart good) kind , good hearted, generous ดีใจ dii-jai (heart good) glad, delighted ใจร้าย jai-raaiy’ (heart mean) mean, cruel hearted ใจอ่อน jai-on` (soft heart) easy to be persuaded ใจแข็ง jai-kaeng~ (hard heart) hard to change once one has made his/her decision สบายใจ sabaai-jai (comfortable, ease of  heart) to feel good, in a good mood, happy ทุกข์ใจ tuk’-jai (sad, worried) น้ำใจ nam’-jai (water from the heart) compassion, mercy เกรงใจ greng-jai (afraid heart) consideration, avoidance of conflict, politeness and sensitivity to feelings ใจเย็นๆ jai yen-yen (heart cool cool) to calm down เข้าใจ kao^ jai (enter heart) understand, “do you understand?” รู้ใจ ruu’ jai (know heart) to know someone’s liking, to be able to read someone’s mind เอาใจ (ao jai) (take/want heart) to please/pamper someone เห็นใจ hen~ jai (see into the heart) to emphathise with someone’s feelings สนใจ son~jai (interested heart) interested จริงใจ jing-jai (real heart) sincere. “I tell you the truth, jing-jing!” ทำใจ tam-jai (do heart) to prepare to accept it or ” get over it, let it go” ซื้อใจ suuer  jai (buy heart) to win someones’ heart ไว้ใจ wai’-jai (keep/Leave/place heart) to begin to trust another เชื่อใจ chuea^-jai (believe heart) trust in someone’s heart พอใจ paw-jai (sufficient/enough heart) to be satisfied ใจกว้าง jai gwaang^ (heart wide) wide minded, open minded ใจแคบ jai kaeb^ (heart narrow) narrow minded เต็มใจ dtem-jai (full heart) to be willing, to do something fullheartedly...
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Over a number of years I feel that I have accrued a degree of wisdom in understanding the dynamics of ladyboys and their attraction. I can’t deny that a lot of that wisdom was gained after making mistakes in my dealings with ladyboys and collisions with Thai culture. All expats with any sensitivity go through various stages of acceptance, tolerance, love or dismissal of their adopted cultural experience. In other words, my attitudes and ideas are a constantly moving feast, changing or becoming fixtures as new experiences of sometimes similar phenomenon happen. Rest is rust. My aim has always been to impart knowledge and promote understanding of the thoroughly intriguing and endearing individuals who refer to themselves as ladyboys. *Ladyboy Personal Introduction service I have observed certain ladyboys whom I know to be beautiful, generous, graceful and loving individuals living alone despite their desire to find a serious and lasting relationship with a western man. Sometimes this is due to a Thai trait such as not recognising their own culpability in a cross cultural miscommunication in perhaps the early stages of a relationship but often it is due to the seed of fantastic expectations sown in their brains by foreign men who do not understand the significance of what they say or do, not realising that merely thinking aloud can be interpreted as wholly conceived plans in the ear of a hopeful ladyboy. I feel able to help ladyboys and western men to find each other, see each other realistically, accept each other, faults and all and bond in a loving and respectful relationship. Annie and I found each...
Unbreakable Bangkok | How does Thailand life compare with living in the West?

Unbreakable Bangkok | How does Thailand life compare with living in the West?

The phrase “beyond the pale”, according to the Urban Dictionary, dates back to the 14th century, when the part of Ireland that was under English rule was delineated by a boundary made of such stakes or fences, and known as the English Pale. To travel outside of that boundary, beyond the pale, was to leave behind all the rules and institutions of English society, which the English modestly considered synonymous with civilization itself. It’s commonly held meaning is behaviour or a lifestyle that is unacceptable; outside agreed standards of decency. It’s a term often used about those who choose to live in the Orient in certain circles. The price we pay for a life of our own choosing may be criticism and one may often find oneself defending the choice to live in Thailand by citing the food, accommodation, cheap hotels and friendly people and if one is bold enough, the beautiful women as our reason, but is it true; are we truly living a dream worth defending? Sitting in the Dusit Thani hotel, Hua Hin, Thailand seems like the perfect place to reflect on some observations that Annie and I made about life in Thailand while on our travels in Great Britain last month. Ironic isn’t it? Perhaps one needs to be away from one’s home culture in order to observe it dispassionately and one needs another culture to compare alongside it. I imagine there are still people who would consider my relationship with a Thai ladyboy or simply the fact that I live in Thailand to be ‘beyond the pale’. I had very little idea how people...
Is it possible to have a relationship with a Thai ladyboy?

Is it possible to have a relationship with a Thai ladyboy?

About Us-A Trans-gender, Trans-cultural Relationship Facebook can be a curse or a wonderful aid to communication. Here in Bangkok it’s a terrific ladyboy dating tool and in the summer of 2011 Annie and I met for the first time. I had been living in Bangkok for a little more than a year when I met Annie and in that time I had spent time with lots of ladyboys, found out the hard way never to date prostitutes and quite literally, written a book about my experiences, called Bangkok Baby.Buy it here. This story is mine and Annie’s. We are very different but just as you and your girlfriend are different, you and I, we are the same in many ways. I came to Bangkok and was done with all love, that unreliable motive for living. I buried it, or more accurately slaughtered it and dumped the body, car and murder weapon, in a pool. Then I flew away. After screwing anyone I met, paying many of them for a few months to keep my distance I noticed bubbles rising from the dead-pool. Loneliness, or something like it popped on the surface. Loneliness is not an attractive state and so it rarely gets a mention in thrillers about private detectives traversing dark cities as it repels more than attracts the subject of its craving, like leprosy or a runny nose. But, a little lost, I listened to it’s baby voice, found a girl or something like it and guiltily ripped out most of the pages of the book called, Never Love A Whore. It’s recommended reading but I recommend that...
An Alternative Night Out in Bangkok

An Alternative Night Out in Bangkok

If you have been to Thailand or even if you haven’t you have probably heard a lot about Thai Ladyboys; some good and some bad but probably all interesting. Some of the negative reports you may have read are no doubt true. Some are not or are only reporting the ‘truth’ from a singular point of view. In general the red light areas of Bangkok are not places where you are likely to meet a representative sample of Thai people. Cities like Pattaya, even less so. This is also the case as regards the Ladyboys you may see or even meet in those types of places. Despite superficial appearances Thailand is a very conservative country both in manners and appearances. The news media tends to report on cases of violence and theft far more than acts of kindness. Ladyboys suffer a bad reputation earned for them by a certain demographic but often the focus on bad deeds are rooted in homophobia and prejudice even in an ostensibly tolerant society like Thailand. To make a balanced judgment or even see the world as it is rather than we are often told it is we need to seek out the alternative experience.  If yours has largely been in the permanent midnight of the entertainment venues in Thailand or on Kho San road and in Silom you may not have seen Thailand in all it’s glory. You may have noticed Ladyboys around you in shops, banks and restaurants but that is coincidental. While seeking an alternative view of Bangkok and its Ladyboys may not sound like a fun night out, think again!...