Gilding the Lily

  Gender Roles, according to Judith Butler, an influential academic, are learned and performed and take the form of a set of corporeal behaviours and actions. Children soon notice that gender is often centered around the concepts of femininity or masculinity. When discovering identity and joining a gender group, there are 5 steps: Investigation Investigation consists of cautious search for information. The person determines which gender will fulfill their needs. Socialisation Socialisation involves the new member accepting their identity. They must interact with the members in the group and accept the culture. Maintenance Maintenance is when the new member and the group discusses what is expected of the members; some people are not happy with the expectations or they fail to meet the expectations. Resocialisation Resocialisation of the member, helps them take on a more serious role as a member and perform tasks that society says they should do. There are two paths to go down, the individual becomes a full member of the group or the individual fails to meet the expectations again and decides to leave. Remembrance Remembrance is a reflection of the group members looking back on the memories they’ve made and how they have become one. A study in 2017 found that health risks are set by the behaviors that are instilled in males and females by the time they’re 10 or 11.       Studies showed that 6-year-old children tend to conform to choices that their peers find more popular. They begin labeling objects as “for girls” or “for boys” and conform to what is expected of them. It has been argued that...
Life Beyond the Pale or Is Living the Dream just a Fantasy?

Life Beyond the Pale or Is Living the Dream just a Fantasy?

The phrase “beyond the pale”, according to the Urban Dictionary, dates back to the 14th century, when the part of Ireland that was under English rule was delineated by a boundary made of such stakes or fences, and known as the English Pale. To travel outside of that boundary, beyond the pale, was to leave behind all the rules and institutions of English society, which the English modestly considered synonymous with civilization itself. It’s commonly held meaning is behaviour or a lifestyle that is unacceptable; outside agreed standards of decency. It’s a term often used about those who choose to live in the Orient in certain circles. The price we pay for a life of our own choosing may be criticism and one may often find oneself defending the choice to live in Thailand by citing the food, accommodation, cheap hotels and friendly people and if one is bold enough, the beautiful women as our reason, but is it true; are we truly living a dream worth defending? Sitting in the Dusit Thani hotel, Hua Hin, Thailand seems like the perfect place to reflect on some observations that Annie and I made about life in Thailand while on our travels in Great Britain last month. Ironic isn’t it? Perhaps one needs to be away from one’s home culture in order to observe it dispassionately and one needs another culture to compare alongside it. I imagine there are still people who would consider my relationship with a Thai ladyboy or simply the fact that I live in Thailand to be ‘beyond the pale’. I had very little idea how people...
What are Ladyboys?

What are Ladyboys?

Gender is the most fundamental part of one’s identity as a human being. The very first question everyone asks about us is “Is it a boy or a girl?” Important though it is, most people never think much about gender. They have no idea what causes their sense of being a boy or a girl, a man or a woman. Having never suffered mis-gendering, they take their gender for granted like the air that they breathe, never giving it a second thought. But some apparently normal boys aren’t boys at all! They feel they should have been girls. Although they have normal XY genes, normal male genitalia, and are raised as boys, they nevertheless have the gender feelings, body feelings and gender identity of girls. Perhaps once in every 200 to 400 births something must go amiss in the early stages of pregnancy so that sex hormones do not have the usual action on the integration of the fetus’s brain. In these cases, children are born having a brain-sex (neurological sex) and innate gender identity opposite to that indicated both by their genes and their genitalia. Since these infants look normal, they will be raised in the wrong gender for their brain-sex (neurological sex). Being raised in the wrong gender causes them profound gender dysphoria or disequilibrium and mental anguish as they grow up. In many more cases, perhaps as many as one out of every 50 children, it appears that the “transgendering effect” is less pronounced but still present to some degree – and this occurs in both boys and girls. Many of these transgender children will have major...
How to Buy the Book

How to Buy the Book

Bangkok Baby-Ladyboys–Special Edition     Available NOW at Amazon. TEN new chapters and 50 original colour photographs !!NEW!! Available in PRINTED format delivered to your door or as an EBOOK! This is almost a completely new book. Bangkok Baby is still intact telling the story of my nine months amongst the ladyboys of Bangkok and the new book tells the story of my life after meeting Annie and appearing on television. I hope you like it! Buy from Amazon or if you want the ebook at a cheaper price than quoted there, direct by email TO davidbonnies@gmail.com. Bangkok Baby The Inside Story of Ladyboys  ...
Meet India’s first transgender newsreader Padmini Prakash

Meet India’s first transgender newsreader Padmini Prakash

India’s first transgender news anchor has appeared on regional television just months after the country’s Supreme Court recognised transgender people as a legal third gender. Padmini Prakash, 31, worked as a dance instructor and acted in soaps before being recruited to Lotus News in the southern state of Tamil Nadu. She told the Times of India she was disowned by her family when she told them she was transgender and has faced discrimination throughout her life. But she has won widespread praise since her first broadcast in August. “I was very worried because I also had to focus on my diction and maintain a steady narrative pace to ensure that there was clarity and viewers could understand me,” Ms Prakash said. Her popularity with viewers ensured a rapid promotion to become the face of the daily 7pm news bulletin. G.K.S. Selvakumar, chairman of Lotus News, told the Times of India the channel was “very supportive”. “After initial trials, we were convinced that she had the potential to be an excellent news anchor,” he said. Ms Prakash has been involved in transgender rights activism in the past, protesting against the discrimination, harassment and stigma experienced by sexual minorities in India. Campaigners estimate there are hundreds of thousands of transgender people in the country but because they were not legally recognised until earlier this year, they have been ostracised, faced abuse and often been forced into prostitution. In April, the Supreme Court’s landmark ruling recognised ‘transgender’ as a legal third gender and called on the government to ensure equal treatment. Nepal, Pakistan and Bangladesh have also legally recognised the transgender community....