How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P6

How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P6

Making the Right Choices In the previous article I published a list of points to be aware of when searching for or talking to a Thai ladyboy online. If you are serious in your pursuit of a ladyboy girlfriend you may have looked through lots of profiles by now. A pattern is probably emerging. But what do you do when faced with the profile of a beautiful ladyboy who clearly fails one of the criteria that seem a minimum requirement for girlfriend status? Maybe she has tattoos? Maybe she has pictures of foreign men on her profile? (Alarm bells) Maybe she is an ‘out and out’ hooker? Well, you will probably meet her anyway, wont you farang? Forgive me for talking to myself, you may be more sensible and cautious than me! Seriously, although I would urge caution, there are exceptions to every rule and by not meeting someone who seems likely to be a hooker you may pass over a truly wonderful person. In general terms it is foolish to pursue a relationship with a prostitute even if your relationship is not that of customer but one of boyfriend (whatever that means in the world of prostitution) because of the inherent problems such a relationship is likely to confront you with. It may seem hypocritical of me to advocate looking for a girlfriend who is not a hooker when in fact the two people with whom I have the most experience have been a full time hooker and an ex hooker. Annie was a hooker before I met her. This is no secret and was discussed in Ladyboys...
Nok Yollada

Nok Yollada

A world of difference While some people just hope for change, others, such as Yollada Suanyot, work for it Girl and boy. Beauty and brains. Money making and social benefit generating. After all these years, Yollada “Nok” Suanyot has grown up and become a good mix of many opposites. “I have become a lot more mature and decisive during the past years. In the past, my jobs only dealt with physical appearance. Each day when I woke up, I only thought of how to make myself look good and appealing to others, because it’s part of my jobs in showbiz. Now things have considerably changed and I look at the world from a totally different perspective,” said Yollada, founder and president of the Transfemale Association of Thailand. First introduced to the public as Miss Apza Transvestite (Miss Alcazar Purple Star Award) in 2005, two years later the beauty queen became an artist with Venus Flytrap – Thailand’s first katoey band with a record deal. Several years later, she transformed herself into a human rights activist by founding the Transfemale Association of Thailand and introducing to Thai society the concept of “transfemale” which she referred to as a person being born female, but trapped in a male’s body. And today, the now 30-year-old is wearing many different hats. Aside from running her own jewellery business and a jewellery channel aired via local satellite, Yollada is now working as one of the 24 members of the Nan Provincial Administrative Organisation (PAO). Elected last year, her job is to oversee and inspect whether the provincial management’s works are appropriate and transparent. A...
How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P5

How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P5

  Social Media I am in favour of using Facebook and other social media to hook up with Ladyboys. If you start exchanging messages with a Ladyboy who responds with decent English and has something interesting to say; nowithstanding the danger signs below, you have found a gem. I met lots of Ladyboys online, specifically Facebook, and had a lot of fun but more importantly, I met Annie on Facebook. You may not exchange many ideas online but you can explore her life a little and make the initial contact which is important. Just searching for Ladyboys on Facebook will turn up hundreds if not thousands of profiles. Once you find one you like, look through her ‘Friends’ list. This may feel a little like stalking? I am not going to mention sites like ‘Thai Friendly’ because sifting out the whores will take you more time than it is worth. There are some genuine ladyboys using the site but most have met way too many farang already. Sloppy seconds anybody? Ladyboys who use Facebook, or other social sites like Badoo or SocialCam (immensely popular amongst ladyboys) portray themselves in various guises, often looking like a million dollars with their best clothes and makeup to the fore. Young ladyboys want to be perceived as more sexy, stylish and feminine than genetic girls. A 20 minute browse could find you these pretty things. They don’t all succeed in their quest to be beautiful and some ladyboys create profiles that can only be described as ‘epic fails’. Horrifyingly yet hilarious. When browsing profiles look for those that have a job; a professional...
How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P4

How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P4

4. Location, Location, Location   I am sure that you have read that ‘Ladyboys can be found in many places all over Thailand. They have lots of different jobs and are highly visible’. While that may be true and to some degree Annie’s advice about keeping one’s eyes and ears open is valid, its also very general advice and when one is in Thailand on holiday, time is a factor. You may want a Ladyboy girlfriend but it’s easy to be distracted by the prostitutes who are ‘in your face’ at every turn in Pattaya and parts of Sukhumvit Road in Bangkok. You may want to stray from that ‘well-trod’ path and venture into ‘real’ Thailand but you only have a few weeks. You want to experience sex with more than one ladyboy and the easiest way to do that is by hanging out in ‘Hookerville’. I would do exactly the same were I in your shoes and of course, in the past, I did! Thailand 101: Don’t fall in love with a hooker   Many of us come to Thailand in search of something. We may not be certain what it is but I would hazard a guess that is something that we may all refer to as ‘freedom’. After possibly spending years as a wage earner, husband and father, putting the needs of others before your own, you may feel like you deserve some ‘me’ time. Who could blame you? Not me! I have been on the same journey and experienced the highs and lows that you too will experience. But this new found freedom you have...
How and Where to find your Perfect Ladyboy Girlfriend. P3

How and Where to find your Perfect Ladyboy Girlfriend. P3

3. Surviving Thai Culture and Dating Yak doo naanan (Looking for a long time, specifically said about a prospective partner) What is culture? 1. Artefacts and Art of a race or society 2. Norms and values of a society 3. Basic Assumptions about behaviour I want to focus on the latter and first try to explain how difficult it is to completely understand Thai culture when one is a perpetual stranger no matter how long one lives here. The basic assumptions of a culture are implicit and are an inherent part of every day life. They invoke routine responses and actions, being so intrinsic a part of the culture that they are no longer questioned, but inherited and built into the cultural expectations of shared existence. These assumptions are difficult for members of the group to explain. They are handed down generation to generation and are virtually inaccessible to non-members of the culture. That being said, no person of any sensitivity could come to Thailand and remain unaffected by Thai culture. Thai people live with some cultural mores that westerners find strange. The difficulty one will experience beyond the simple acceptance of everything one encounters about the new culture is which aspect of the culture to adopt and which to reject and under what circumstances. Having lived in Thailand for four years now I have passed through various stages of culture shock and acceptance. Interacting with Thai people every day allows one to experience both positive and negative traits and aspects of the country. All of my perceptions about Thailand are ‘salted’ by my fondness for the place and...
How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P2.

How and Where to find your Perfect Thai Ladyboy Girlfriend. P2.

2. Be a Man with a Plan When I came to Thailand I thought I was through with relationships and I was happy about that. Having experienced several long-term relationships and three marriages (and divorces) in the UK I planned to relish the freedom that an escape to Thailand offered. However, after settling in Thailand I realised that I really missed having a girlfriend and after one disastrous, chastening and frankly heart-breaking ‘save-a whore’ experience I made a plan. Yes, I actively planned and used a set of criteria to find a real girlfriend and I can tell you how you can do it too. I am not suggesting that you never do anything spontaneous. That would take the fun out of things completely and getting yourself out of ‘scrapes’ with our ladyboy brethren will be terrific learning tools, providing you survive. Free yourself from western guilt but stick to your western principles. Dating in Thailand differs from dating in the west in a number of ways. Dating ladyboys differs from dating genetic women in a number of ways too. You will have heard the stories about prostitution and how western men come to Thailand because they can’t get a girlfriend or get laid in their own countries. Most of those stories and comments you may hear or read come from western women who have such an enormous sense of entitlement that even the richest, sexiest, kindest man alive would still disappoint them simply by being a man. Marriage in the west is also such a minefield that many, men, even young men, have ‘swallowed the red pill’ and...