Thailand’s Real Black Magic

Thailand’s Real Black Magic

The village centre is a rough circle of beaten earth. A long chute made out of corrugated tin stretches from the edge of its only solid structure to a stone well that collects rainwater and mounds of rubbish sit heavily on either end of the clearing. They make a good home for the many ‘Ngu How’ or Cobra that live alongside Annie’s extended family.   Her grandfather has just died and she and her relatives are stoically washing his body and preparing him for the afterlife, reincarnation or whatever end we all go to.                                                       A shirtless man with one arm stumbles into the clearing. He is joined a few moments later by a man with one leg., together a kind of grisly double act. The arm was lost to a tree felling accident and the leg to a cobra bite. Hospitals were expensive until the introduction of the 30 baht act. That was too recent for the double act, they are in their 50’s or perhaps their 40’s. People age quickly in the chonderboat, the Thai name for the countryside. Countryside is too quaint a word for the Thai hinterland that makes up the majority of the country. I have no idea who these men are. Hardship is written on the many faces. There is no nobility in poverty. It is often difficult to identify the precise nature of relationships in Thai culture as there are so many aunts, cousins, second cousins...
Is it possible to have a relationship with a Thai ladyboy?

Is it possible to have a relationship with a Thai ladyboy?

About Us-A Trans-gender, Trans-cultural Relationship Facebook can be a curse or a wonderful aid to communication. Here in Bangkok it’s a terrific ladyboy dating tool and in the summer of 2011 Annie and I met for the first time. I had been living in Bangkok for a little more than a year when I met Annie and in that time I had spent time with lots of ladyboys, found out the hard way never to date prostitutes and quite literally, written a book about my experiences, called Bangkok Baby.Buy it here. This story is mine and Annie’s. We are very different but just as you and your girlfriend are different, you and I, we are the same in many ways. I came to Bangkok and was done with all ‘that’ love, that unreliable motive for living. I buried it, or more accurately slaughtered it and dumped the body, car and murder weapon. Then I flew away. After screwing anyone I could pay to screw me back for a few months to keep my distance I noticed bubbles rising from the dead-pool. Loneliness, or something like it popped on the surface. Loneliness is not an attractive state and so it rarely gets a mention in thrillers about private detectives traversing dark cities as it repels more than attracts the subject of its craving, like leprosy or a runny nose. But, a little lost, I listened to it’s baby voice, found a girl or something like it and guiltily, whitely, ripped out most of the pages of the book called, Never Love A Whore. It’s recommended reading but I recommend that...
An Alternative Night Out in Bangkok

An Alternative Night Out in Bangkok

If you have been to Thailand or even if you haven’t you have probably heard a lot about Thai Ladyboys; some good and some bad but probably all interesting. Some of the negative reports you may have read are no doubt true. Some are not or are only reporting the ‘truth’ from a singular point of view. In general the red light areas of Bangkok are not places where you are likely to meet a representative sample of Thai people. Cities like Pattaya, even less so. This is also the case as regards the Ladyboys you may see or even meet in those types of places. Despite superficial appearances Thailand is a very conservative country both in manners and appearances. The news media tends to report on cases of violence and theft far more than acts of kindness. Ladyboys suffer a bad reputation earned for them by a certain demographic but often the focus on bad deeds are rooted in homophobia and prejudice even in an ostensibly tolerant society like Thailand. To make a balanced judgment or even see the world as it is rather than we are often told it is we need to seek out the alternative experience.  If yours has largely been in the permanent midnight of the entertainment venues in Thailand or on Kho San road and in Silom you may not have seen Thailand in all it’s glory. You may have noticed Ladyboys around you in shops, banks and restaurants but that is coincidental. While seeking an alternative view of Bangkok and its Ladyboys may not sound like a fun night out, think again!...