Unbreakable Bangkok | Tearing up the Rulebook

By now, if you have been watching and listening to me talk for any length of time you will probably have assimilated ‘The Rules’. Some form of these “Rules” can be found on various websites and videos across the web.         The Rules Don’t be “Captain Save a Whore”-whores don’t want to be saved, they want your money. Don’t let girls/ladyboys move into your apartment until you are ready If you feel yourself falling in love, take some time out Don’t marry a whore Don’t use your savings to buy land or property in a Thai person’s legal name Be prepared to walk away from any relationship even if it hurts. Rules are made to be broken but make sure you don’t break them on your first visit to Thailand. Give yourself a fighting chance before applying a broader, more sensitive approach to living. The most basic rules, like those above, are those you will have heard and read the most often and we need rules or maxims to live by particularly when we are vulnerable, as when we are in situations/environments that are new to us. Thai people often imagine foreigners as naive or even stupid folk who come from a land of milk and honey where even idiots can succeed with ease. Arriving in Thailand is jumping off a cultural cliff’s edge and we spend a lot of time walking around, enthralled, with our mouths open in surprise and amazement as we soak in this thoroughly alien but wonderful new world. But these rules are just maxims, stereotypical responses if you will and as...

Gilding the Lily

  Gender Roles, according to Judith Butler, an influential academic, are learned and performed and take the form of a set of corporeal behaviours and actions. Children soon notice that gender is often centered around the concepts of femininity or masculinity. When discovering identity and joining a gender group, there are 5 steps: Investigation Investigation consists of cautious search for information. The person determines which gender will fulfill their needs. Socialisation Socialisation involves the new member accepting their identity. They must interact with the members in the group and accept the culture. Maintenance Maintenance is when the new member and the group discusses what is expected of the members; some people are not happy with the expectations or they fail to meet the expectations. Resocialisation Resocialisation of the member, helps them take on a more serious role as a member and perform tasks that society says they should do. There are two paths to go down, the individual becomes a full member of the group or the individual fails to meet the expectations again and decides to leave. Remembrance Remembrance is a reflection of the group members looking back on the memories they’ve made and how they have become one. A study in 2017 found that health risks are set by the behaviors that are instilled in males and females by the time they’re 10 or 11.       Studies showed that 6-year-old children tend to conform to choices that their peers find more popular. They begin labeling objects as “for girls” or “for boys” and conform to what is expected of them. It has been argued that...

Ladyboy Lives | Mistress Nikki

Nikki seems such a gentle and pretty girl that it’s hard to imagine her handing out discipline but Nikki has a powerful, tough streak. She has iron in her personality as well as in her pants! I just thought she was a beautiful ladyboy when we met but soon discovered more about her than I...

How Popular is Ladyboy Porn?

I have met lots of Thai ladyboys over the years who have done porn. A few have regretted it despite them being hookers because of the visibility and the chance that their family may see it. That seems unlikely but once something is on film, it’s there forever or almost ever. Almost every ladyboy I know loves watching porn as do all the older ladies in the massage shop Annie and I always visit. they ask her to show them how to get it on their phone browsers. They all love Farang porn because they love big, white cocks (not joking) whereas ladyboys also like farang porn but the gay variety!   There were a couple of outfits making porn in Bangkok the last time I discussed it with anyone. They both rented or used a condo in Bangkok and arranged for the ladyboys to come and make a movie over a period of a few days. The going rate a few years ago was between 3k for solo Ladyboy jerk-off movies to 5k for fucking movies. There were stories of more with specific kinds of sex. The money is not life changing so do only the desperate cash hungry agree to do porn? Recently I started to wonder about that and did a little research about porn habits.   Intuitively knew this already but read an article about Evil Angels a porn producer and it’s director of business development said: Trans Porn Is Hugely Popular Among Hetero Men  What’s often called Shemale porn is consistently among most popular and its most loyal viewers tend to be heterosexual men....

Ladyboy Lives | Bella

Having seen the video you may be shocked at what happened to Bella and sympathise with her. I know I do. But do you feel that what happened to her is indicative of a broader theme? I am referring to the way in which Thai society and the Thai government regard Ladyboys. At best they are afforded sympathy for being born into a kind of ‘nether world’ between genders and despite Buddhist writing suggesting that in one incarnation we all, even the Buddha himself, will be or has been a kathoey, Buddhist monks try to teach kathoey how to be ‘men’. Is Bella’s suffering just one example of the disproportionate numbers of kathoey raped, beaten and murdered in Thailand? The UN Thailand report on LGBT issues noted that: Homosexuality is no longer considered a mental illness by the Ministry of Health; however,transsexuality is still pathologized. Transgender individuals cannot change their gender on identity papers. Existing marriage laws specifically reference only men and women. Legal and policy reform is seen as difficult both because lawmakers tend to be conservative, and because the constitution and country’s laws are seen as sacred. Although there is no overt persecution of LGBT people, Thai society does not wholly accept sexual and gender minorities. Attitudes towards LGBT individuals can be somewhat tolerant as long as LGBT people remain within certain social confines. There is a lack of understanding about the specific struggles and needs of LGBT people. Arguably, the greatest and often most important struggle that a Thai LGBT individual faces is that of family acceptance. Being respectful to the wishes of one’s parents and...

Ladyboy Professional Girlfriends

I have noticed a number of ladyboys over the years who seem to be cut from different cloth than the omnipresent bargirl or go-go types who tend to often have similar cosmetically enhanced features and a daring style of dress only ever at home in a bar or on a Bangkok street corner. Let’s refer to these very different Ladyboys as ‘professional girlfriends’. They are not naive village girls either. These girls know how to carry themselves. They know how to dress and apply make-up. They understand subtlety and class to some degree. I think it’s innate as I have met a few who have only been in Bangkok a short time, too short to pick up city smarts. Some never do and will still be found in the same bar in ten years sporting the same kind of cheap but slutty dress from Huay Kwang market or Platinum Mall. Does their style and visible ‘class’ mark them out as candidates for a real relationship and does their behaviour and nature make them different from the street whores? You won’t find these girls on a street corner or a bar but you will find lots on ThaiFriendly and dating sites. They may come down to Bangkok to meet you stranger after a brief but steamy exchange of impassioned messages and chats on the Line app. You may have been persuaded to visit Thailand by these fond and sometimes lewd online assignations or you may already live here. Either way, this angel will stay in your hotel for a few days, weeks until you tire of her or propose (an...