Ladyboy Lives | Bella

Having seen the video you may be shocked at what happened to Bella and sympathise with her. I know I do. But do you feel that what happened to her is indicative of a broader theme? I am referring to the way in which Thai society and the Thai government regard Ladyboys. At best they are afforded sympathy for being born into a kind of ‘nether world’ between genders and despite Buddhist writing suggesting that in one incarnation we all, even the Buddha himself, will be or has been a kathoey, Buddhist monks try to teach kathoey how to be ‘men’. Is Bella’s suffering just one example of the disproportionate numbers of kathoey raped, beaten and murdered in Thailand? The UN Thailand report on LGBT issues noted that: Homosexuality is no longer considered a mental illness by the Ministry of Health; however,transsexuality is still pathologized. Transgender individuals cannot change their gender on identity papers. Existing marriage laws specifically reference only men and women. Legal and policy reform is seen as difficult both because lawmakers tend to be conservative, and because the constitution and country’s laws are seen as sacred. Although there is no overt persecution of LGBT people, Thai society does not wholly accept sexual and gender minorities. Attitudes towards LGBT individuals can be somewhat tolerant as long as LGBT people remain within certain social confines. There is a lack of understanding about the specific struggles and needs of LGBT people. Arguably, the greatest and often most important struggle that a Thai LGBT individual faces is that of family acceptance. Being respectful to the wishes of one’s parents and...

Ladyboy Professional Girlfriends

I have noticed a number of ladyboys over the years who seem to be cut from different cloth than the omnipresent bargirl or go-go types who tend to often have similar cosmetically enhanced features and a daring style of dress only ever at home in a bar or on a Bangkok street corner. Let’s refer to these very different Ladyboys as ‘professional girlfriends’. They are not naive village girls either. These girls know how to carry themselves. They know how to dress and apply make-up. They understand subtlety and class to some degree. I think it’s innate as I have met a few who have only been in Bangkok a short time, too short to pick up city smarts. Some never do and will still be found in the same bar in ten years sporting the same kind of cheap but slutty dress from Huay Kwang market or Platinum Mall. Does their style and visible ‘class’ mark them out as candidates for a real relationship and does their behaviour and nature make them different from the street whores? You won’t find these girls on a street corner or a bar but you will find lots on ThaiFriendly and dating sites. They may come down to Bangkok to meet you stranger after a brief but steamy exchange of impassioned messages and chats on the Line app. You may have been persuaded to visit Thailand by these fond and sometimes lewd online assignations or you may already live here. Either way, this angel will stay in your hotel for a few days, weeks until you tire of her or propose (an...